Hubby would not be happy with me posting this, but I'm doing so anyway and will take the slack... For no other reason then in the very rare chance a PC or CONSOLE Gamer happens upon this blog and sees this post and steps away from his/her game of choice to spend time with his/her family....so that the Gamer doesn't wake up 5 years later and say "Where was I when that happened"
OK SO I'm dreaming that a Gamer will ever happen upon this blog.... but maybe a Gamer Widow will and know there is hope....
Here it goes!!
I became a Gaming Widow when the first Nintendo graced our family room, Then it became portable and that was all she wrote! It went down hill when Playstation hit the streets, and once the PC landed in our residence, I mise well have left the state.... "Wife? Whats that?"
Being a Gaming Widow had its ups and downs. Some times worse then others.... But nothing as bad as when we became parents... Hubby had a cave, he could retreat from reality at will, he checked out! He left the building (not really)... As much as he loved being a Dad, he missed so much. And I would have loved to share every second of those years with him if he had let me.
From first crawling to first steps, to the cutest little words and smiles. He missed the first feeling of snow, the first rain drop, first foods.... He missed family and friends coming and going.... The first ball thrown and so much more.
He asked recently why I wasn't in any pictures the past 4 years... well that is because I was always behind the camera. I was behind the scenes, I was taking the pictures while doing things because Hubby wasn't checked in.... He is now.... He is a much different person since he checked back in to the family, and although there is still a very big place for gaming... he is very much back in to the day-to-day of our lives... He has realized he can have both. As all people could if they change priorities a bit...
And it wasn't until he started looking at our new digital picture frame (yeah, who would have thought that thing would make people think so much)..... That he realized how much he really missed.
While watching a video he said "Where was I when that was taken?" And I told him that if he listened closely, he could hear a game playing in the background.... WOW!!! What a moment.....
As a caring person, I'm sad for him, and sometimes I was even sad for myself for not having him to share that time with... but as a Former Video Game Widow.... I couldn't be happier that he had that "Wow" moment!!! It took 5 years, but WOW!!
So if you are a Gamer and by chance you have read this... Don't wait 5 years... you can't take the time back... you can't reverse, there are no Do Overs... You can't regenerate or pause or wait for a Medic to revive you.... once the time is passed in real life, it is gone... And it doesn't come back.... Be a part of your family!! The games will still be there, even if your points go down or your levels aren't all that....
When my Hubby is on his death bed someday, no one will care or remember his levels in a game... But there will be at least two people that will remember so much more!!
You said that so well .
Posted by: NEE NEE | December 31, 2008 at 10:36 AM