6 YEARS OLD

Wow, how time flies!! 

6 years ago at this very moment I was beginning Hard Labor... I was too excited to get to that point, and anxious to have it over.  Then early the following morning out popped this little angel... Hard to believe that he was ever inside my belly... How did he fit?  How did he live in there for 10 months....

 

But he did....  and the most amazing thing happened... that little 8 pound ball of smiles changed my life....People would say "you need a break"  I didn't want a break!   I wanted to spend every moment with him.  I new each would pass too quickly, I wanted to see them pass and then see the next one.  Everything I did revolved around him.  I new what each cry meant, when he needed me and when "HE" needed a break. 

Yes he cried, he pooped (way too much) and filled more diapers, blow outs and even some buggy suckers then I care to remember.  He spit up, sucked my nips more then a hungry cow sometimes for 24hrs straight.  But he smiled, and cooed, and laughed with his whole belly.  Milestone after Milestone, I watched each go by with joy.

As I was helping him walk at 4 months and watching him in the Jumpy thing at that age, people would say "Slow down, don't let him learn that yet"  or "Your letting him grow up too fast" ... Well Guess what, they do grow, and if he showed interest, then I helped him fulfill his interest.  And we learned things together, and he would have grown with or with out my help, I'm sure of that!  But our way, he grew and I watched, and we enjoyed each step together.

When I was exhausted at 3am for the 4th wake upcall, I remember telling myself... "Enjoy this, its that much more time you get to spend with him"  And I did.... The time does pass quickly... and I didn't want it pass with me being miserable, I chose to enjoy the extra time no matter how tired.

While learning and teaching baby signs, so we could communicate, people would tell me "There is no way he will ever speak"... yeah well, have you talked to my kid?  He never shuts up! 

But with the signs, he could tell me about his world before his mouth and tounge could catch up to his brain.  I remember one time on a walk, he signed to me that a Mommy Bunny was feeding her baby... I looked all over and then realized, under the bush... A Mommy and Baby bunny....  We sat and watched them together.  Something I would never have seen, but he did at his height....  I learned then to get down at his level sometimes and see what he sees.... Some days, I'd get on the floor, and watch the world go by at his level.. and it was a wonderful place.

My close friends may have heard me whine about the Hubby, but I can tell you, that I NEVER whined about wanting to spend time with my little Vegman.  There were many people, family included that thought I was a Fruit Loop for wanting to be around my child, and not wanting to get away when I had the oppurtunity....  Well heck, what else is new!  I'm a fruitloop.  But when it comes to time with my Kid..  I can look back with happiness in my heart for that time that I will never get back and know that it was time well spent.  The pictures and the memories will never be erased..

Even if he now hates me on a bad day, and only wants me around for cooking because Daddy is so much funner..... I remember those earlier times, and hope that somewhere deep in his heart he does too.

Sorry, got side tracked..... and so he grew... and grew fast...the days all ran together, the nights became days, I don't have a clue how time has passed before me so quickly, when there was a time that days seemed to not end.  But as the baby years became toddler years, I looked at my boy and gave him sooo many hugs and extra kisses... I told him that soon, he wouldn't want to have any thing to do with me, so I would take all the hugs I could gather. 

His sweet little butterfly kisses, and eskimo kisses, and slobbery cheek kisses, the biggest hugs his little arms could muster... I took every bit of it.  Probably wasn't till his attitude filled year of the 3's that I agreed, "I NEEDED A BREAK" working longer hours, parenting, etc.  Time out for dinner, or visiting friends, turned in to nice outings.... And then we had a year of bad sick bugs, migraines, infections, etc.  That was one I wish I could forget....

But then the bad years also make us who we are in the good years.  Which means I can't even complain about those...  He started school, made friends, grew some more...Had a few more tantrums, went from knowing his letters, to understanding a noun from a verb. 

And now he is SIX!!!!  So big, and so Mature.  he knows EXACTLY what he wants and how to get it.  He's way more intelligent then I am, Still has a few tantrums, and every once in a while, I get a Hug or a butterfly kiss or a "MOM I LOVE YOU" and I know even those will be leaving the nest soon, along with him as he continues to grow. 

 

I don't look at him as my Baby Boy, I look at him as a Young Man growing to his full potential, and remembering the baby boy he once was....

So tonight I must say Happy Birthday Big Guy!!  This Vegmom is a proud one... and full of a love that I didn't think possible before these 6 years entered my life.... What a blessing, and one I will treasure for all of my days!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY VEG!  

Comments

[SJ]

Is his real name Veg or is this something that you call him on this website?

[Connie]

Thank you for writing this. I cried the entire time that I was reading it because I too have a 6 year old and yes he grew up too fast and I like you, have cherished every moment with him and am so sad that time is passing me by. Thanks again for sharing your heart because it has definately touched mine.